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Recommended Readings – Psychology

We would like to recommend some books that you might find useful as a resource. The list will be revised from time to time, so we suggest you bookmark the page for future reference. Our current suggestions include:

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

“What the heck is my partner thinking?” is a common refrain in romantic relationships, and with good reason. Every person is wired for love differently, with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and rituals, making it possible to actually neurologically prime the brain for greater love and fewer conflicts.

Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding a partner’s brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners’ emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain’s threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. By learning to use simple gestures and words, readers can learn to put out emotional fires and help their partners feel more safe and secure. The no-fault view of conflict in this book encourages readers to move past a “”warring brain”” mentality and toward a more cooperative “”loving brain”” understanding of the relationship. Based in the sound science of neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, this book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

In the age of online dating, finding a real connection can see more daunting than ever! So, why not stack the odds of finding the right person in your favor? This book offers simple, proven-effective principles drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find the perfect mare.

In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatkin—author of Wired for Love—offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship.

Using real-life scenarios, you’ll learn key concepts about how people become attracted to potential partners, move toward or away from commitment, and the important role the brain and nervous system play in this process. Each chapter explores the scientific concepts of attachment theory, arousal regulation, and neuroscience. And with a little practice, you’ll learn to apply these exercises and practical techniques to your dating life.

If you’re ready to get serious (or not!) about dating, meet your match, and have more fun, this book will be your guide.

Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships

(6 CDs – 5 hours, 50 minutes)
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Shift Out of Conflict and into Connection, Safety, and Intimacy“Improve your brain, improve your relationships.” That’s what Stan Tatkin has learned from his leading-edge work as a researcher and couples therapist. In this complete audio learning program, he merges current insights from neurobiology and attachment theory to help you shift out of conflict and into deeper and more loving connections. You will first learn to identify attachment styles—the patterns of intimacy that begin in our earliest years—both in ourselves and in those around us. Then Dr. Tatkin will guide you through his proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between couples, family members, and others that we love.


The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert

John M. Gottman, Ph.D.

John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years.

The Art of Loving
Erich Fromm

The Couple Enrichment Approach™ has incorporated some of the core ideas presented in Fromm’s book, namely that love is an art, an activity that requires learning and mastery through disciplined practice.

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson

Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.

Parenting from the Inside out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.

This book shows parents how to understand and integrate experiences from their own childhood into a nurturing style of parenting that promotes healthy communication, meaningful attachment, and trust.

Parenting – An Adlerian Approach

The Theory behind Active Parenting – An Adlerian Approach

The Active Parenting model is heavily based upon the theories of Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs (“Adlerian Psychology”). Some of the core concepts of this theory are discussed on this page.

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D., founded Active Parenting Publishers in 1983. Soon after, he introduced the first video-based parenting education program, Active Parenting. Recently revised, Active Parenting Now has helped millions of parents develop cooperation, responsibility and courage in their children. His video and online-based approach to parenting with some wonderful books to help your understand your children and some of the meaning behind their behaviours. 

Some helpful books to get started:

Active Parenting Now in 3: Your Three-Part Guide to a Great Family 
Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

Parenting Your 1-4-Year-Old
Michael J. Popkin, Ph.D.

Doc Pop’s 52 Weeks of Active Parenting: Proven Ways to Build a Healthy and Happy Family
Michael J. Popkin, Ph.D.

Active Parenting of Teens
Michael J. Popkin, Ph.D

Active Parenting Now: For Parents of Children Ages 5 to 12 
Michael J. Popkin, Ph.D.


Healthy Body, Healthy Mind

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Super Immunity is a compelling, yet easy-to-follow approach that gets the body’s immune system working to its fullest potential, and thereby promoting the body’s strongest defence. From avoiding common infections and dangerous bacteria, to preventing cellular dysplasia and cancer, Dr. Fuhrman reviews the power of nutritional excellence and the super foods that can enable us to push the envelope of human longevity.
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What constitutes a healthy diet that is actually disease protecting versus one that is disease promoting? What degree of nutritional excellence is necessary to make a diet therapeutically disease reversing? How do we measure the quality of our diet or the degree of nutritional excellence we are obtaining?

Eat For Health answers these questions with logic and science. Dr. Fuhrman presents a well-researched , highly effective and long-lasting weight loss program. But more than that — he helps you learn to judge the nutritional quality of your diet in order to discern whether it is optimal for delivering the therapeutic effects for disease reversal and prevention.
Joel Fuhrman M.D. is a board–certified family physician with a private practice in Flemington, New Jersey, who specializes in preventing and reversing disease through nutritional and natural methods.

If you want to live longer, reduce your need for medications, lose weight faster than you ever thought possible, and dramatically improve your health, you will want to read Dr. Fuhrman’s book Eat For Health.

Eat to Live (paperback) is a New York Times Best Seller — completely revised and updated) that will let you live longer, reduce your need for medications, and  improve your health dramatically. It is a book that will change the way you want to eat. Most importantly, if you follow the Eat To Live diet, you will lose weight faster than you ever thought possible and never gain it back.

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Dr. Fuhrman Eat to Live Cookbook: 200 Delicious Nutrient-Rich Recipes for Fast and Sustained Weight Loss, Reversing Disease, and Lifelong Health – Sig

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Area Attractions


We are members of The Hills of Headwaters Toursim Association. You will have plenty of time to enjoy this wonderful area when you are in Hockley Valley for your Couple Intensive Retreat. You can pick up a copy of the HHTA’s award-winning annual Visitor’s Guides and other tourist pamphlets at the Visitor’s Information Centre in Orangeville, at the corner of Broadway and Highway 10 when you arrive here . We encourage you to browse through the Hills of Headwaters site before you arrive to learn about the natural beauty of the area and the many outdoor and cultural activities that draw people to this region throughout the year. You might also want to book a massage or aesthetics appointment at Spa O, which is located right in the Orangeville Best Western Plus & Suites.

Located one hour north of Toronto, Ontario, Canada in the beautiful Hockley Valley. Our home-based counselling office is in Mono Township. We are 10 minutes north east of Orangeville, ON (7 kms north of Hwy. 9, and 3 kms west off Airport Road). We serve the entire GTA (Greater Toronto Area). Our Ontario clients have come from Ajax, East York, Etobicoke, Mississauga, Markham, Newmarket, North York, Richmond Hill, Scarborough, Thornhill, Toronto, Alliston, Amaranth, Aurora, Ballinafad, Barrie, Bolton, Brampton, Burlington, Cambridge, Caledon, Caledon East, Collingwood, Elora, Erin, Fergus, Georgetown, Guelph, Grimsby, Hamilton, Hockley Valley, Ilderton, Kanata, Kingston, Listowel, London, Mono, North Bay, Oakville, Orangeville, Oshawa, Ottawa, Peterborough, St. Catherines, St. Thomas, Sarnia, Sault Ste. Marie, Shelburne, Sudbury, Tottenham, Winchester, and Waterloo. Easily accessible from the Toronto International Airport, clients have visited us from Australia, Dubai, Great Britain, Jamaica, and the United States (Alaska, Alabama, Arizona, Arkansas, Atlanta, California, Colorado, Florida, Georgia, New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, Maryland, Michigan, New Hampshire, Ohio, Pennsylvania, Tennesee and Texas). In Canada, we have counselled clients from Newfoundland, Prince Edward Island, Nova Scotia, New Brunswick, Quebec, Ontario, Saskatchewan, Manitoba, Alberta, British Columbia, Nunavut, and the North West Territories.